We get asked an awful lot about our wedding, marriage and how the hell do we put up working and living together every day! The answer is simple. IT’S BLOODY FANTASTIC.
We don’t often write personal posts on our blog as we like to share weddings with you all but I guess this goes hand in hand with weddings and how we both got here today.
It happened a LONGGGGGGGG time ago. In May 2000 over 17 years ago (I know we don’t look that old) our eyes met at a nightclub. Not any night club but a right dive in our town. There was a foam party happening in a place called 101 it was one hell of a classy joint! We had both had a few drinks and were talking to a mutual group of friends. Kelly was dancing in a pair of 6 inch heels at a foam party. Probably not her best move and she fell arse over tit flat out. So, Paul helped her up and we got chatting and exchanged numbers (land lines – mobiles had not been out that long – Good god!).
Over the next few months we both became girlfriend and boyfriend (big awwwwwwwwwww). All was well and in 2003 we decided it would be a good idea to get engaged more so we could have a big party rather than plan a wedding. Again this was full of romance and happened in Pizza Hut in the Trafford Centre while we were out buying trainers. None of this get down on one knee, it kinda went like this. ‘We have been together now for three years and are thinking of buying a house maybe we should get engaged or something’ then it happened. We were in no rush and wanted to buy fancy cars with stupidly noisy exhausts and huge sound systems, and our first home before splashing out on a wedding. A few crazy fast cars, new jobs, university, a dog (Big Daisy doo) and a mortgage later and we were ready to set our wedding date. It was going to be a destination wedding in St.Lucia. This is when Paul first bought his first DSLR camera and started to really get into photography.
Fearne arrived in June 2009 and Paul carried on taking pictures of her for fun and more as a hobby. When Fearne started walking Paul took her out for a stroll with Daisy (our previous doggie) while Kelly was at work. He took some pictures of Fearne and Daisy and posted them online. Everyone commented on how lovely they were. Mostly because Staffordshire Bull Terriers have a bad name but Fearne and Daisy were best friends and they looked so happy! From these pictures a friend of ours asked for some lifestyle family portraits which Paul did and more people started asking him to do family portrait sessions. Paul worked away from home Monday-Friday at this time and Kelly worked every other weekend so taking on family shoots was so hard on our family that he only took pictures once a month.
On 13th February 2010 something happened that made us realise that we have to grab life by the balls and enjoy every minute we have. Richard Walker, our dear friend died aged just 28 leaving behind his beautiful wife and an unborn baby. It was sudden and it broke our hearts. To this day we think about Richard and know that he plays a big part in our wedding business being what it is. It was about a week after Richard’s death when Kelly turned to Paul and said something along the lines of, ‘Life is too short, you spend so much time away from your family. You love photography, make it yours/our life.’ From that day we worked our butts off trying to break into the wedding world.
We networked, joined up with other photographers on styled shoots, we went to workshops, did free shoots, built up a portfolio and we worked every minute possible to build up our business. Holy crap it was hard and we were so very tired but we were going to succeed in this plan.
In September 2011 we shot our first wedding and in 2011 we shot a total of 3 weddings. In 2012 we shot 17. In 2013 we shot 27. In 2014 we shot 42. In 2015 we shot 35. In 2016 we shot 38. This year we are shooting 34. If you would have told us that in 5 years we will have shot 196 weddings, both quit our careers and be full time photographers doing the job we have grown to absolutely adore, we would have thought you were snooker loopy.
From 2002 until 2010 we lived a very different life from what we have now. Paul worked away from home during the week as a lorry driver with long hours and Kelly was a Prison Officer with some crazy ass shift hours. This meant that sometimes we would only see each other for 3 hours or so at the weekend and the rest of our relationship was by phone calls, text messages and such. We won’t lie it was hard, really hard and at times it really hurt us to be apart for so long, especially with Fearne being so young.
We shoot all our weddings together. We travel to weddings together, we work together, we socialise together, we eat all our meals together and there are weeks where the only breaks we have are if one of us does the food shop, goes to the gym or collects Fearne from school. We are husband and wife but most of all we are best friends, a team and we LOVE being together. It may not be easy at times, we argue, we bicker, we laugh, cry and do stupid shit but most of all we are happy.
Photography we could say has saved us. It has made our career. It has shaped us. We no longer have to spend weeks away from each other, spend loads of time away from Fearne. We are here all together and yes we LOVE it. It has also taught us many things. We have lost a lot of friends. Working crazy hours and trying to be a family only at the weekends many ‘close’ friends have drifted away from us and the ones who are still here we thank them for their love and support but, we have new, lifelong friends who we would have not met through our love of photography. Friends who will be there forever.
We are no way saying we are experts by no means but having spent the last 17+ years as a couple there are a few things we would like to share with you all.
- Laugh Often – Take time out to be a couple. Take time out to talk about your relationship the moment you met, the many firsts and where you see yourselves in the years to come.
- Take Time to Love Each Other – Every single day often a few times a day we say “‘I love you’ to each other. EVERY FREAKING DAY tell each other you love each other. Be it by a little whisper in the ear, whist making dinner, doing the ironing, making a cup of tea. It can’t always be romance but those three words always make people smile.
- Date Nights if you have children – I cannot recommend this enough! In the summer we don’t really have time for date nights but we do make sure Fearne stays out at least one evening every week so we can just be a couple again (Don’t worry Fearne gets LOADS of attention) After all, most of you out there were a couple before children arrived. There are so many things that you can do with or without a budget. Even if it is just for a few hours. A picnic, a movie, romantic meal, home made dinner cooked by you both, a walk, a spa day, a weekend away honestly the options are endless. Oh and TURN THAT PHONE OFF for a short time.
- Alone Time – As much as we love working together spending 24/7 with each other can be quite intense. Take time out to walk the dog, go fishing, spend time alone with our Fearne separately or just hanging out in different rooms for a few hours.
So that’s us. Paul + Kelly. Paul Joseph Photography. Yorkshire Wedding Photographer s
Image taken by our friend Lee Allen
Yorkshire Wedding Photographer